Break Up Advice for Guys Wanting to Dump their Girlfriend

Here’s some break up advice if you are trying to dump your girlfriend.  Women are fragile creatures, and your best self defense when you are calling it off is to have a good offensive plan.  Your strategy should incorporate time, place, and tone.  Here’s my best break up advice for you.

It’s better not to break up in the heat of the moment.  If you feel like calling it quits, then leave.  Tell your girlfriend that you’ll talk in the morning.  Giving you the space you need lets you cool off and get back together, if that’s appropriate.  Or, it gives you a chance to break up well so that you don’t have regrets later.

My first piece of break up advice has to do with timing.  If this is a long term relationship and there’s a major event coming up including a holiday such as Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or her Birthday, if you break up with her right before, it will make you look like you just wanted to get out of buying a present. 

Also, take into consideration what is happening in her life.  If you break up with her the night before her LSAT exam, she may blame you for not getting into Harvard Law for the rest of her life. 

If you take this break up advice too literally, though, you’ll never be able to call it quits, because there will always be “something” on the horizon.  So, take timing into consideration but don’t be a slave to it.

Next, you have to determine place.  If you break up with her at your home, then if there is a scene, you can’t just walk out.  If you break up with her at her home, then she may always associate some of her things with the break up.

It’s best to break up at a public place such as a restaurant.  This will probably limit or reduce any histrionics on her part because she won’t want to make a scene in front of strangers.  You are also free to leave if she doesn’t take it well.

If you live together, you should be prepared ahead of time to leave for the night and sort out the property issues later when you are both calmer.  Even if it’s your place but she’s living there, don’t turn her out in the cold.

Next, you have to determine the tone.  Women tend to want to talk.  They want to analyze what went wrong in the relationship.  Don’t fall into this trap.  Set the tone by saying you’re moving into another place in your life and you don’t see her in it.  Then shut up.  She may scream.  She may cry.  She may demand explanations.  Don’t give in.  If you need to, get up and leave.

My best break up advice is to set the time, place and tone in such a way that causes her the least amount of pain, and then let the chips fall where they may.

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